My friend and coworker, Cynthia, inspired this blog subject from a conversation we had last night at work. The bottom line of our conversation was that people come and go into our lives for different reasons. Some stay with us for a lifetime; some stay for just a short time. It's hard to know who will stay and who will go, but  we cherish all our friendships throughout life. What makes a great friend to me, is someone who "clicks" with me and who has similar values and principles. It doesn't matter if the person is rich or poor, educated or not,  young or old.....but they have to have the same outlook on life as me. There are a lot of traits that I value in friends such as: loyalty, humor, spirituality, thoughtfulness, and loving spirits. You all know who you are! What about you?
 


Comments

KATHY

Sun, 25 Oct 2009 10:45:50

i totally agree with your definition, barb. but of course i have something to add...;-) i have made friends (very good friends as a matter of fact) with some folks that irked the life out of me. one friend in particular just made me see red whenever i heard her voice ! turns out she was just the 'class clown'....and i do SOOO love to be entertained ! things were never dull around her. she would give you anything she had...especially her humor. just another illustration of everything happens for a reason, i guess. lesson learned...i'm not so quick to write off peeps i don't 'click' with immediately. sometimes their role in our lives isn't readily apparent.

 

Barbara Woodin

Sun, 25 Oct 2009 16:52:53

a real good friend is someone who never lies to you, especially if you ask her,do I look like I'm gaining weight and says yes!Invites you to a Bible Group at her Church because she knows I'm lonely. a good friend is someone you can laugh and cry with!

 

mary Jo Howard

Tue, 27 Oct 2009 09:41:17

As I get older I becoming accepting of other people and our differences....my friendships are in different categories,I have coworker friends, and acquaintance type friends, neighbor friends, friends from the past HOWEVER I put my time and energy into those friends that I share common interests, morals, and values, we are there for each other no matter what time of day.....we have shared every emotion there is, we feel each others pain and joy as we go thru life's ups and downs together,as next door neighbors or miles apart....we know each others deepest secrets, the things that make us happy, and the things that make us sad.....I want all the good things that life has to offer for my near and dear friends.....and they want the same for me....I believe the cliche that friends are the family we get to choose....

 

Mo

Wed, 28 Oct 2009 16:14:10

I have a variety of friends, some I see every day at work, some are past co-workers, a few High School friends, roommates. I stay in touch with friends that make me feel good, and happy. I like to be around people that aren't negative. My favorite type of friend is one that you don't have to apologize to, or feel guilty around, one that you can be your zany self around. A true friend is someone that can see my messy house!!!! and like me for me :) As I've aged, I've gotten to be a better friend to myslef, which is a gift.

 

Jennifer

Thu, 29 Oct 2009 08:05:12

So true. I have to tell you a story about being in the right place at the right time & making a new friend. Monday Mike & I decided to pick up Gwen & Garrett then go to the beach in Pass A Grill. We were there for about 30 minutes & a very pregnant woman asked how old the kids were. Here daughter is 18 months & has another daughter due Dec. 22nd. Well, we started talking & Mike started talking to her husband. Come to find out we have a lot in common with them & some mutual friends. Not only are our kids about 2 years apart in age but the funniest thing was that we both have 2 dogs that are the same breed. We talked about the Montessori school where Garrett goes(they are intereted in taking their daughter there.) So we exchanged phone numbers & promised to make some play dates. We joked about buying lotto tickets that night. I had Mike stop on the way home and bought a scrach off & won $15.00.

 

Carmella

Sat, 31 Oct 2009 08:01:54

Barb, I like and appreciate your perception and definition of friends. It is so hard nowadays to find a true friend. I trust too easily then get hurt. I think the same applies to romantic relationships - to have the same values and same outlook on life. I am going through a very painful breakup and I thought we were friends as well...NOT! It IS hard to know who will stay and who will go! I don't know who to talk to sometimes, but I do have to vent so I talk anyway just so I can release and get some constructive feedback. Thanks for that.

 

Cynthia

Mon, 09 Nov 2009 19:04:56

Finally got on here... love it!

 



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